Is It Really About Saying No More Often?

Virtual Coaching Academy @ TM Inc Author

It can be hard to put yourself first and prioritize your needs when you feel like you do not physically have the time or energy in your day to do so.

Are you mentally exhausted, burnt out and looking for more time, energy and joy in your day?

You are not alone, it can be hard to put yourself first and prioritize your needs when you feel like you do not physically have the time or energy in your day to do so.

For years I was "too busy" to take meaningful action on my needs.

Somewhere along the way, I had lost all sense of self and quit pursuing my personal growth. I had parked my hobbies, passions and joys and seemed to have no real dreams. I began to lose a sense of connection - to myself and others - and struggled to find perspective on what mattered most.

At one point, I decided it was time to get good at saying "no" to others more often so I could free up the time and do the things I enjoyed, pursue my dreams again and live the happy and healthy life I so desperately desired.

Did it work? Nope!

There can be a real sense of guilt associated with prioritizing your needs and putting yourself first. The fear of selfishness is real and can leave you abandoning your happiness and health to avoid disappointing others.

It all changed when I found a new perspective on what it meant to say yes/no and prioritize my life.

The fact of the matter is, when I was saying yes to everyone else, by default, I was saying no to myself. It is like a coin. When you get heads, by default, you don't get tails...and vice versa.

In essence, it wasn't about learning to say no more often.

I was already saying no enough. The key was to get better at confidently prioritizing a yes to the right person first. I was saying it to the wrong person by default...ME!!!

Over time, I came to realize drawing boundaries on my time with both myself and others, without feeling guilt, was a powerful step. Was this change of paradigm empowering?

YES!

Be well...and have the BEST day you can!

Trevor "Douglas" Moore